Fall In Love With Yourself
Gaining confidence is about changing the way you think about yourself. That doesn't mean you have to change who you are, you just have to tap into your psyche to uncover the parts which have never had chance to show themselves. Men are not known for being in touch with their inner selves, they think they have to be cavemen when it comes to attracting women, be super-masculine and physically strong. But women respond more to honesty and vulnerability, not bravado. This means getting to know yourself intimately so you can show us how many layers you have. To do this, there are four main areas of your life you need to take care of. Once you're comfortable with these, you'll be in a much better place to find the perfect partner for you.
Everybody needs a path to follow. You are master of your own destiny but it's surprising how few men actually know what they want from life or how to get it. If you've ever felt empty, drifting from job to job and relationship to relationship, then this is a definite sign that you do not know yourself. For instance, a lot of men believe that wealth is the key to attracting women. Well sure, there are plenty of women who will flock to the rich guy, but they're not attracted to you. Also, too many people stay in jobs they hate because they don't know what they want to do, but knowing what you don't want to do is just as important. And when it comes to dating, do you just go through the motions, happy to be with any woman just because you don't want to be alone? Holding out for the right woman is far more important than settling for just anybody. And you have to know what kind of relationship you want, too. If monogamy doesn't work for you, explore other options like open relationships or swinging. It's so easy to just do what society expects of you but if you're not happy then something needs to change.
Low self-esteem is debilitating and destructive. If you don't have a high opinion of yourself, then you can't expect anyone else to, either. Having high self esteem isn't the same as having a big ego, it's simply about knowing you're worth something. Having pride in what you do, how you look and how you behave towards others are things which women notice. If you have a history of bad relationships, then your self-esteem has probably taken a battering, so you need to spend time alone to build yourself back up and start setting yourself some realistic goals. Look at your life – your job, your social circle, your hobbies etc, and ask yourself if you're truly happy. Are any of those things dragging you down? Do you hang about with friends who make you feel bad? Is your job making you unhappy? Are there things you'd like to try that you've never had the courage to do, like learning a new language, traveling to exotic places or just making new friends? By looking at all areas of your life and being honest about the things which make you feel low, you can finally start making some changes.
When your confidence is low, you stop taking care of yourself. You think that nobody notices you so why bother about things like looking good or eating well? But you have to remember that confidence comes from within, it's not about what other people think of you. So you have to start from the inside out, because if you like what you see in the mirror, then others will see that too. Listen to your body and respect it. Begin a healthy diet, do exercise, take care of your skin and keep yourself well-groomed. Go for regular health checks and take time through something like meditation or yoga. A balanced mind leads to a balanced body, and that's when you're going to start attracting all the right attention.
In today's society it's easy to be influenced by others and not take responsibility for our own actions. Self-trust is about knowing you can rely on yourself and having the confidence to trust your instincts, even if your decision turns out to be the wrong one. Nobody's perfect, so if you can accept that not everything you do will turn out great, you'll actually be boosting your self-confidence because the point is that you are in control of your own life, nobody else. And the more you learn to trust yourself, the less likely you are to make mistakes anyway. Have faith in yourself, trust your judgment and you'll find that decisions get easier to make.
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